As English author Samuel Johnson said, "Kindness is in your power, even when fondness is not."
At Sena Family Law & Mediation Practice in San Francisco, this is the number one tip we offer clients who are considering mediation: Be as kind and generous as possible. When both parties are willing to extend a certain amount of generosity, the process works. Effective resolutions come together. Being as generous as you can be toward your spouse or co-parent — and having them return that generosity — is key to success.
Over the past 30 years of practice, attorney Cheryl A. Sena has also found that it's essential for both parties to keep an open mind. In other words, don't come to the mediation sessions with preset solutions. Instead, be willing to listen to the other party and to the mediator. Be willing to consider other viewpoints and other options. Thinking outside the box often produces the best results.
A third important tip for making mediation successful is to stay calm and think about the steps right in front of you. You may feel like your life is falling apart and everything you value is in danger. This perspective can paralyze you and make progress impossible. Instead of worrying about how divorce will affect your life a decade from now, focus on what life will be like one month from now.
For more tips, schedule a free consultation with our lawyer by calling our California law firm at 415-906-2556. You are also welcome to contact us via email. We respond promptly.